Either I stink at making friends (which is likely, I will explain later) or people stink at making friends with me (which is also likely... explanation also forthcoming). I have been going to the Little Gym class for a few weeks now and I really enjoy it for Chase's sake. He seems to like crawling around and getting into all that the gym has to offer. The other moms in the class are a nice enough but they seem to have their clique already in full swing and I am definitely the outsider. I have a hard time 'imposing my friendship' (to quote Danielle!) but add the fact that my child is the only one that requires my help... it makes it that more difficult.
Time out - all the other kids are in the 16 - 18 month old range so they are much more self-sufficient when it comes to play time and exercising - Time in.
They do get together for lunch sometimes after gym... to which I was invited on the first day but they hadn't actually done the lunch until this week. I milled around after class trying to be part of the crowd but no one actually asked if I wanted to come with... add to that the fact that I left Chase's stroller at home... I just gave up and left.
So they aren't very welcoming and don't seem to have room for another person... and I am too shy (painfully sometimes if you can believe it) and have too little confidence to do anything more about it. It's as much fun as you think. I am not saying it will never happen... I will be in this class for the next 16 weeks but as of right now... nothing.
We have some plans this weekend with another family so who knows where that will lead us. We also need to work on getting plugged into a church in the area... and we are planning on joining the local Y and taking swim classes... all of which should help in the quest for friendship!
I miss my friends back in Crofton... my neighborhood strolls with Danielle and Anna and my impromptu zoo trips with C and Scooter!
I wish I were 5 again... It was so simple then... you just walked up to someone and asked to be their friend.
So moving the TV out of the house has been going pretty well. Chase and I occupy a lot of our time in the apartment with music... which lends itself to much dancing! We go back and forth between his music and mine... for my sanity ;~)
I have been doing more in the way of actually preparing lunch for him. I made alphabet pasta with veggies three times this week which he has really enjoyed... I end up covering it with a Gerber pureed veggie to make it a little easier to swallow but I feel it was still an accomplishment! I have also been cooking carrots and green beans for him to gnaw on... so far he just kind of waves it around and throws it to the ground... we are working on actually eating it. We have also been making oatmeal with a side of banana/nectarine for breakfast instead of just 2 Gerber fruits. I am thinking about weaning him soon (since he is coming up on his one year birthday!) and I want to be sure he is getting all the vitamins and nutrients he needs if I am not the one supplying them anymore!
I have also been more adventurous with cooking for Adam and I... more adventurous??? Try just starting out on the adventure. I digress... I made a lasagna for dinner last night and it was fantastic! It took me over 4 hours to prepare (start to finish) but that was because 1. it was a 'from scratch' recipe... note to self, read the directions thoroughly before you commit to buying all the ingredients, and 2. there was a lapse in the actual preparation because of 'the routine'. In the end it was totally worth it. Adam and Sandy raved about it all night long which made me understand why people cook... it's nice to have your hard work enjoyed! I leave you with a mouth watering picture of my cheesy, bubbly yumminess!